Hey,
This thought has been triggering me for the last two weeks..My friends on Gmail might have noticed this question on my Status Bar "Does forgiving someone help you forget ,what you've forgiven them off??"...Yes this is what my post analyses... Last week my mom said "Forgive them,Its human to make mistakes"..Hmm Valid point i totally agree,but its not something that has to be told to someone like me...I'm one of those people who doesnt take most of the conversations,comments seriously unless it is meant to be a personal view or advice(yes i do take advices into considerations,that too from those who i respect)...I'm pretty neutral to arguments that half way through it ,I end up saying ,"Yes you're right ,I'm wrong",so that i can cut any more lame statements...So me getting irritated or annoyed with someone is quite rare... And so forcing me to forgive them is ridiculous...
So i've been thinking since that day , If i will be able to forget the pain that someone has caused by just forgiving them....Will i never remember the hurtful words that someone threw up on me if i ever see them again....Will That thought get erased from my memory or atleast be one of the least frequently retrieved thoughts......Will everything be the same as Before..
After much of introspection I figured out that the answer to the above questions, is a big "NO" ...Its not possible to forget someone's fallacies by just forgiving them... "Forgive and forget" Sorry to say, That's such a ridiculous Proverb...Doesnt make any practical sense at all.... So I finally ended up thinking why spend or rather waste my time thinking of how to forgive someone when there's no point doing it..The Human Psyche has the most Extraordinary Mechanism of Remembering the Hard/Bad times that others have given you rather than the Good ones....
I wouldnt want to end it with my opinion..I understand its not totally amiable and neither cant it be a Generalised View .
So for those who have an argument or comment in favour of "Forgive and Forget" I'd appreciate it, if you could share it with us.... I always alter my general ideas if i find something more convincing on the other side of the wall....
Yep! thats it for now....
hey coooooool start ,looking forward to your entries...and to know what your 'mindspeaks'...
ReplyDeletehmm.. gr8 .. cool..I think u r very much experienced under tis topic .. so tats it 4 nw :D continue ur collage posts.. :) :D
ReplyDelete@Daph: Thanks!!..Yeah it depends on you to understand what my mind speaks...
ReplyDelete@Pavi: Thanks!! Vey much Experienced??...No not really..Maybe from the trivial experience i've had...Yes i'll try making my posts a variety..
Really nice blog :) You've got a nice touch. Look forward to more.
ReplyDeleteAbout your 'forgive and forget' theory, i have something i'd like to add - I feel that forgiving comes more easily when the person in question is someone you like. In others, we tend to concentrate more on their faults. It takes a lot of maturity to view the event from outside the twister. On a vaguely related strain - i once came across this saying "People often forget what you did or didn't do, but they'll never forget how you made them feel". When i read it, i felt that i had just learnt a truth.
@Vinee- Thanks! I do hope to continue( but i'm already lazy ;))Thanks for opinion...I think thats the way it works..but once again i dont think it'll be forgotten..About the saying you've mentioned...its Brilliant.Thanks its gotta whole lot of truth in it:)
ReplyDeleteu are exactly right some thing that hurted us in life cannnot be forgotten
ReplyDeletehow can we forgive them if they just say a word sorry
if we can do so then we are extreme divine creatures not humans
@Bubu: Hmmm...But even Divine Creatures Dont Forgive...This is the ultimate explaination: If u have a heart(which i do not doubt)and if its filled up with feelings(both ways),then u can't let go off things just like that...:)
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